Syntax Literate: Jurnal Ilmiah Indonesia�
p�ISSN: 2541-0849 e-ISSN: 2548-1398
Vol.
7, No. 11, November 2022
DATING APPS FRONT STAGE AND BACK STAGE: HOW INDONESIAN
REPRESENT THEMSELVES ON TINDER
Muhammad Farel Salahudin, Jo Ellaine Sumeisey, Indra Prawira
Bina
Nusantara University, Tangerang, Indonesia
E-mail: [email protected], [email protected], [email protected]
Abstract
Tinder, which dominates the market in Western
countries and targets mobile daters, has recently taken over the dating scene
on a global scale. The development of the Internet has changed how we initiate
and maintain interpersonal relationships. The dominance of dating apps is also
evident in Southeast Asia, with nearly half of Indonesian respondents using
dating apps. Dating apps profiles are how people introduce themselves to other
people, and user-written profiles on dating apps enable users to represent themselves
to potential matches on their own. Users may be compelled to provide
information that they think will benefit them in using dating apps to achieve
their goals. Using Erving Goffman's dramaturgy theory, this study aimed to look
at the front stage and back stage of Indonesian Tinder user. By using
convenience sampling to explore through the tinder profiles, 11 in-depth,
semi-structured interviews and content analysis of Tinder profiles in Indonesia
were conducted. The findings indicate that users might try to control the
impression they create and can be seen through their photos, biographies,
interests, and connected accounts. It can also provide information about their
fashion and etiquette, while their bio can provide information on how they use languages.
Most of the participants comply to Indonesian culture and beliefs when it comes
to their profiles since it is more socially acceptable, and participants are
consistent with their Tinder profiles and how they are behind the profiles.
Keywords: dramaturgy
theory, online dating application, self-presentation, tinder.
Introduction
The
development of the Internet has changed how we initiate and maintain
interpersonal relationships. Thanks to the rapid development of technology,
people can exchange a series of electronic messages and participate in
different social activities through cyberspace, one of which is online dating.
For centuries, people have turned to third parties to help fulfill their desire
for romantic relationships, from matchmakers to personal advertising, and, more
recently, online dating
Online
dating is the practice of using online dating sites to find a romantic partner
Recently, mobile dating
apps have taken over the dating scene on a global scale, with Tinder dominating
the market in Western nations and catering to heterosexual mobile daters
The domination of dating
apps is also apparent in Southeast Asia where according
to a survey on dating apps conducted by Rakuten Insight in September 2020,
around 48 percent of Indonesian respondents stated that they use such
applications to meet people
In
dating apps,
user-written profiles serve as the primary way for people to introduce
themselves to others and learn more about potential partners
Goffman
suggests that an individual who enters into interaction with another person
always tries to control the image they create in their mind about that
individual and the impression that individual makes
Literature
Review
A.
Dating Meets
Technology
Tinder is a location-based mobile online dating application that allows
users to find and connect with their potential partners. The wildly popular
mobile dating app was launched in 2012 by Sean Rad
This free-to-download app is easy to use, users are to set up their
profile with just a few photos and a short biography to start swiping. Users
can also display recent pictures by connecting their Instagram accounts and
linking their Spotify accounts to display their music. The main profile photo
on Tinder is the first impression users have of a possible match
With the convenience that
comes with tinder, researcher has found that it is not only used for dating but
also for so much more. In one study, some of the first academics to ask the
issue, "Why do people use these mobile dating apps?� created the Tinder
Motives Scale through their research, which had thirteen motives; seeking social approval, looking for relationships, seeking sexual
experience, improving flirting/social skills, preparing for travelling, getting
over previous relationships, gaining belongingness, responding to peer
pressure, meeting people with the same sexual orientation, passing time,
distracting oneself from work or study, and fulfilling curiosity
B.
Impression
Management on Tinder
In 1959, Erving Goffman introduced the idea of
dramaturgy. This theory makes the analogy of life as a theatrical
performance and stated that the way we present ourselves in everyday life is
similar to a performance on a stage. In other words, when a person interacts
with people, that person is an actor in a show. By the time the show
(interaction) ends, they may return to behind the scenes where they give up
their role, relaxes and potentially prepares for the next show
Erving Goffman's dramaturgical theory suggested that people
"perform" according to their social environment and desired image in
social life, such as "actors" performing on "stage"
Goffman takes this perspective from theatre; he used theatre as a
metaphor to represent how people behave in society and represent themselves. In
this metaphor, people are actors and society is the stage, individuals interact
with each other, as an actor exchange dialogue, they are directed by the norms
and values adopted as members of society. In Goffman's theory, performances by
certain individuals (actors) always take place on a stage which consists of two
main areas, namely the front stage and the back stage. The front area is where
the show itself takes place. Here the individual plays a certain role (defined
by appearance, stage, and manner of performance) for the audience and tries to
provoke a certain impression
With performances that are always adapting, each individual can be seen
as an actor with a social setting where the audience sees them as the front
stage
This is where impression management plays a role, usually people tend
to show behaviors that will be easily accepted by
society. In situations where we don't know the other person, people tend to put
themselves in front. This front stage self is a version of oneself that is
believed to benefit others. In this study, impression management can be seen as
a tool used to get a date. On the other hand, backstage self refers to the
aspect of a person's true self, who people are when they are in a comfortable
environment. When actors retreat backstage where no audience is watching, they
acted differently
Goffman argued that individuals manipulated their setting, appearance,
and behaviour in an attempt to control or guide their impression on others
Tinder and other dating apps are different in that connections are
confidential. The profile itself, though, is semi-public and oriented toward
the user, providing a means of interaction. According to Goffman, Tinder gives
the user a stage where they can perform
Other than that, photo editing can also be considered beneficial
because the photo's ability to be edited, there are options to create a more
strategic self-presentation
Research Method
This study uses a qualitative methodology to
investigate how users of dating apps represent themselves on Tinder. Eleven
in-depth, semi-structured interviews were conducted with Tinder users in
Indonesia by using convenience sampling. Participants were interviewed via
Zoom, and face-to-face interviews. The researcher translated and transcribed
the interviews before using dramaturgy theory to analyse the data using
indicator from the theory which are setting, fashion, language, and etiquette
Discussion
and Findings
Through their profiles, Tinder users can express and present
themselves. Some participants carefully selected the images, bios, and
interests they wanted to display on their profiles to potential matches with
some even connected their other social media accounts. The majority of the
participants are honest and true to their online selves. Aside from the dramaturgy
indicator which are setting, fashion, language, and fashion, the findings also
shows that there are some elements of photo manipulation when it comes to
choosing pictures for tinder profiles.
A.
Setting
The majority of
participants are consistent between who they portray on their profiles and who
they are in real life. A previous study has shown that personality traits can
be accurately predicted
�I realized
that I am an introverted person, so I would be a very quiet person when I�m
with people who aren�t that close to me.� (Sarah, 18)
�I�m an
ambivert, so sometimes I�m an introvert and sometimes an extrovert on some
occasions. It�s just that I�m actually more of an extrovert, but I could be
awkward when meeting with new people. But if I have met them once or twice, I
tend to overshare instead of being more reserved.� (Maura, 22)
�Yes, I�m more
of an extrovert. What made me realize was I�m a person who couldn�t survive
alone, especially when I was in my room and my social energy is hard to drain.
So if I were to go out the whole day and meet people, I wouldn�t be tired.� (Jo, 22)
The "about
me" section and one's interests might give one a sense of who they are. A
participant who identified herself as talkative stated on her bio,
"Chatting when I'm bored," and another participant connected his
Spotify and Instagram accounts to demonstrate his love in music and
photography. Additionally, a person's profile may reveal information about
their interests, lifestyles, and hobbies. Another participant who enjoys photography
made the decision to list "photography" under his interests and use a
photo of himself holding a camera as his profile picture. Lifestyles can also
be seen through a person's profile, as seen by the participant whose image was
taken against a lavish setting and who claimed to have a more luxurious
lifestyle. In contrast, another participant who claimed to lead a slightly
middle-class lifestyle is inconsistent in her photos, all of which were taken
overseas.
B.
Fashion
A person's choice
of clothing can reveal insights about their self-concept
�I think it�s
really important because I think it can reflect who I am from the clothes.� (Sarah, 18)
�It�s
important, clothes make us see ourselves and our personality. Like if you dress
neatly, people will see you as a neat person. Anyway, the form of clothing is
related to the value of our personality as well.� (Thita,
26)
�Clothes are
really important for me because even though there is a saying 'Don't judge book
by the cover' for me, it's the appearance that is seen first by the people.
It�s not good either if people�s first impression of us is a mess. So I feel
like I have to keep it neat even though I�m just meeting friends who I met
every day. I still have to dress neat even if it�s just a few blocks or houses
when I hang with my friends. So, it�s important.� (Raksa,
24)
Only two people are inconsistent between what they like in real life
and what they wear in their Tinder accounts, making fashion the portion of Tinder
profiles that is the most authentic to their users. The study's participants
described their style as being simple, casual, and trend inspired. For example, some participants mentioned:
�I'm a person
who follows the trend, so sometimes I get the idea from Pinterest. Then I like
to wear clothes that tend to be black because my body is a little fat. What
makes me like to wear black clothes is that it makes me thinner and for my skin
color when I wear dark clothes it can make it brighter.� (Gisel,
18)
�My way of
dressing is more casual, what's simple. That's why I dress like that, I'm not a
complicated person. So, I just use it as comfortable as I am. It's not too much
of an uproar, it's not too complicated. And I don't like full color, I
definitely like colors that are usually monochrome. From the simple color and
model, the point is that it�s not complicated.� (Thita,
26)
Based on their profiles, Tinder users may easily identify their fashion
sense. Most of the apparel displayed on participants' profiles is
representative of how they typically dress. Although it is important and easy
to show through one�s profile, one participant who claimed that she
dressed neatly is inconsistent and chose to only publish images with casual
attire on her profiles. Makeup is another element that appear to be
inconsistent. Pictures without makeup were chosen by a participant who values
makeup highly, while another participant who thinks make-up is not that
important uses all her pictures with make-up in it.
C.
Language
The participants
about me section reveals the language aspect. Although not all participants
have bios, a large portion of participants are consistent in their speech and
language. Specific indicators, such as formal/informal language style,
politeness level, or the usage of emotional words or symbols, can be used to identify
self-presentation behaviors
�What I can
use is first the mother tongue, which is Indonesian and then English.� (Maura, 22)
�For language
is for sure Indonesian, then the second one is English.� (Sarah, 18)
�Actually,
fluently other than Indonesian, it�s English.� (Jo, 22)
But despite her
poor English skills, one participant decided to use an English bio as well. The
following are the justifications for her decisions:
�As I
mentioned, I�m a person who maintains my image very well. Even though I
couldn�t use English very well, I can understand it. The reason I use an
English bio is because most users like to speak English. It�s like, �yes, I can
do it too�. And I don�t want to be seen as tacky.� (Thita,
26)
Another
participant emphasized that she used an English bio because it matched her
standards and helped her narrow down potential matches. In the
participant's own words:
�So when I
was still using an Indonesian bio, few of my matches that I had a chat with
didn�t meet my standard. Even when I have lowered my standard by chatting with
them, I still feel like something is missing. Meanwhile, when I later chose to
use an English bio, some of those who matched me met the standard I wanted. The
standard I want is for them to be able to connect with me even in English or
Indonesian. Even though I my bio is in English, I sometimes also reply to their
chats in Indonesian and vice versa.� (Maura, 22)
Their bio can also
serve as a representation of their speaking style. Only a few of the people who
claimed to joke around include jokes in their bios. One participant, who said
she would only speak when absolutely necessary, represented it as
she only has a brief bio on her profile. Although most participants accurately
depict how they talk in their profiles, others do not. One participant, for
instance, who claimed to speak in a more serious manner in daily life, utilizes
humor in his bio.
D.
Etiquette
Even though many
participants are genuine about their etiquette, etiquette is the most
inconsistent element of their Tinder profiles. While some individuals'
alleged use of more revealing attire is evident in the attire they are wearing
in the picture, more than half of the participants stated that they prefer to
wear modest clothing rather than revealing attire. The term "modest
fashion" is commonly used to refer to a clothing fashion style that covers
up the body's shape
�Because of
the demands of religion and parents, I am modest.� (Sarah, 18)
�I'm not so
confident and I don't think I�m not worthy of wearing clothes that are too
revealing.� (Maura,
22)
�Now I�m
fully covered, I�ve never used the revealing one again because I got a warning
from a friend.� (Nabila, 19)
E.
Photo
Manipulation
Since photo manipulation
is a revolutionary method of self-presentation for users to create their image,
it cannot be included in existing dramaturgy indicators. Although photo
editing is evident in many profiles, the majority of participants claim that
they simply use it to enhance the lighting in their photos.
�It�s rare
for me to edit the photo, at the very least I just brighten up the image. For
example, the photo is too dark, I just turned up the exposure. As for the ones
that changed the skin tones and all, I don�t do that. So just basic edits, but
most of the times I don�t edit it at all.� (Raksa, 24)
�Ideally, I
wouldn�t want to edit the photo, I�d want the photo to look good by itself.
Because it would be apparent if it�s edited. I�d want the photo to look good out
of the box. But I will still edit if i found myself
looking good but the photo is a little dark, but most of the times I don�t do
filters, I just play with the brightness.� (Aubrey, 24)
�I usually do
filters so that the colors looked the same. Trying to do that so it looks good.
So just to change the colors, not the skin tone. I'm really against changing skin tones like that. The
shape of the face is also not changed. It's just for aesthetics.� (Fahira,
21)
Some of the
reasons why people feel the urge to manipulate photos include insecurity and
low self-esteem
Conclusion
How Tinder users represent themselves have been explored in this study.
Users of Tinder utilize their profiles to represent themselves, including
images, interests, an "about me" section, as well as connected
accounts. The findings shed a light on the dating apps platform, with Tinder
being one of the most well-known. It's particularly fascinating to note that,
despite occasional discrepancies between people's profiles and how they truly
are, some characteristics are thought to be more consistent than others. It is
congruent with Goffman's theories that people perform on stage while wearing
masks and that there are distinctions between the backstage and the front stage
where they aim to make an impression to the audience
The exploratory nature, qualitative methodology, sample size, and
convenience sampling are the research's limitations. The methodology and
sampling method chosen make it very difficult to generalize the results.
Additionally, the results only apply to a relatively narrow group of users;
users of different ages may have different methods of presenting themselves. As
a result, this research cannot be regarded as definitive and should not be used
in that manner. Instead, the goal of this study is to introduce a phenomenon
that the researchers have observed. This research could be expanded in the
future by combining more qualitative and quantitative research methodologies,
as well as by increasing the sample size and segment. Future studies might also
look at how well the user's intended impression matches what the other person
perceives. Finally, the question of whether presentations that users are hiding
or have chosen not to show should also be included in future studies.
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